Getting ‘The Universe’ working for you – Part two – Overcoming blocks to getting what you really want in your life
Knowing what we want is one thing, but how to get it? How to make it happen? If something you really want isn’t coming to you, then on some level, you don’t really want it. Part of you is resisting it. This is usually due to fears. For example, fear of success, fear that if you get what you want you won’t be able to handle it, fear of change...
To overcome this, try writing down all your fears about the goal you wish to achieve. ‘If I achieve this, I am afraid that....’ and just keep writing it again and again until there are no more. You may be surprised to discover the source of your resistance. Fear of our own greatness and brilliance, and the fear that we may outshine others, thereby making ourselves unpopular, is a very common fear! But the world deserves your greatness, and we all want to be inspired by yours so we can discover our own, so please feel free to shine! When you discover your fears, just embrace them. Accept that you feel fearful and don’t resist it. That’s the way to change it.
If we’re not happy with a situation, then resisting the way things are, wishing they were different, means that we are stuck, the situation can’t change. Once we accept things as they actually are, now, and then suddenly transformation magically becomes possible! So if you feel you are stuck in any area, try to embrace it. Say, for example ‘I accept that my relationship with father is unhappy and at this moment I feel angry with him.’ Even if it’s a ‘bad’ thing you are feeling - anger – let go of your judgement of the feeling as being bad and just embrace it. Accept how you actually feel. This will magically cause it to shift! And know that we all feel ‘bad’ and ‘wicked’ things at times and that’s ok.
Meditation
Relax and breathe deeply. Imagine yourself sitting in the centre of a room on a chair. In front of you is another chair. Someone is waiting to come into the room. It is a part of yourself that is resisting. Resisting what you most want. Invite them to come and sit in the chair in front of you and ask them how they feel. Ask how they would feel if you received or achieved what you most want. Then thank them and let them leave. Someone else is waiting to come and talk to you, another part of yourself. Invite them to come in, and talk to them about how they would feel if you received or achieved what you most want. Repeat the process until you feel complete. Then, invite someone in who inspires you or represents what you most want. See them come in and sit in the chair. Talk to them and listen to what they have to tell you. When ready, come gently back to your body.
Another key barrier to getting what you want is beliefs. If you don’t believe you are successful, feel it, know it, then you are resisting. So another great exercise to do is to write your goal at the top of a piece of paper and then write your beliefs about it underneath. ‘I believe...’ And keep going until they are all there. You may well be surprised at the hotchpotch of beliefs that you hold! Some may be positive and valid, some may be out-of-date, coming from parental conditioning, and some may just make no sense at all! Go through them, eliminate the negative and write yourself new positive ones. This is a fundamental tool for creating what you want. Beliefs are written in the present tense ‘I am successful’ ‘I am in a fulfilling love relationship’ ‘I am the manager of a successful football team’ etc.
It is said ‘our beliefs create our reality’ but often people don’t really understand how this works so here’s an example. You have a belief ‘no-one wants to be my friend’ and you go to a party. With a belief like that, you‘ll sit in the corner feeling shy, mouth droopy, ignoring everyone. Consequently no-one talks to you, further reinforcing your negative belief. Imagine instead you go to the party with the belief ‘everybody loves me and I’m going to have a great time!’ – you’ll breeze in, grab the first person you see, make eye contact, give them a huge smile and a hug... can you see the difference? The huge difference in experience that is created by one simple belief? All of life is like this. It is all driven by our beliefs. Very powerful thing to know because now you can change it.
Have fun creating everything you ever wanted!
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