When we feel uncomfortable, or out of sorts, when we have
an emotional feeling that we judge as ‘bad’, it
is very common to want to ‘go off’ – to
escape, to absent ourselves so that we don’t have to
feel the feeling. Common ways of doing this include drifting
into a dreamworld, using distractions such as alcohol, shopping,
work, TV, not listening, and physically ‘going off’
– that is, leaving!
In fact, even a difficult situation has it’s gold. By
‘going off’ we may miss out on the gold –
the learning, and the completeness of the experience. In challenging
times, friends may tell you it’s ‘time to move
on’ – however, if you are not feeling ready, then
it is not time to move on at all, it is time to stay with
the situation and see what happens!
The greatest gift that you can give to yourself, is your presence!
If you are not present in your life, in this moment, then
who is? Who is here having this experience? Before we can
be present for others, or attract people who are truly ’present’
in our lives, we must first be present for ourselves. This
is true in fact, of all things. We must first find it within
ourselves, before we have it to give to others, or to find
in others!
If you are ‘missing somebody’ this is actually
the outward projection of missing yourself! You are not present
with yourself, and projecting that onto a third party. The
way to heal the feeling of ‘missing’ is, strangely,
to come back to being present with yourself!
Becoming Present
Here are some common subconscious beliefs which prevent you
being present with yourself:
I absent myself from myself
I’m not present with myself
I don’t listen to myself
It’s not ok to feel my feelings
I go away from myself
I’m not within myself
I miss myself
I won’t be present with myself
I will be present with myself+
I go off
I’m in the wrong movie
I’m in the wrong place, job, relationship
I don’t belong here with myself
I feel uncomfortable with myself
I can’t bear myself
I feel trapped in myself
I feel stuck with myself
(+ two stage belief, first clear ‘I won’t’,
then clear ‘I will’.)
The effects of ‘I go off’ are classic –
if you suddenly feel you want to leave the country, get away,
that you are in ‘the wrong place’ then you probably
have the ‘I go off’ belief which leads you to
suddenly go off on a tangent when things get emotionally uncomfy.
It doesn’t really help, and results in having many jigsaw
pieces of life scattered in different areas, and difficult
to join them up! Better to stay put and feel the feelings.
If you have this belief, you will also attract people who
suddenly ‘go off’ and leave you.
Changing a Belief
To change a negative belief, simply embrace, acknowledge,
and surrender to it, which turns it off. The process* is to
say out loud:
“I choose to believe (I’m not present with myself),
I love myself when I believe (I’m not present with myself)
and I embrace it, I surrender.”
As you say the belief, feel how you feel when you have that
belief. As you embrace it, imagine you are hugging a child,
and as you surrender, acknowledge and let go. Just do it once,
for each belief. Drink lots of water, and rest after.
Exercise: Become conscious of your feet on the ground. Imagine
suckers sticking to the floor. Breathe deeply, imagine you
are drawing energy up through the suckers, up your spine to
the crown of your head. Breathe out, imagine you are breathing
out through the suckers. Continue for a few minutes. Imagine
you are drawing up positive energy from the earth, and releasing
any old unclean energy or negative thoughts to the earth.
Bring yourself into your heart. Feel yourself present. Allow
any feelings. Place your hands over your heart.
With a straight spine, drop your head forward, then tilt it
back and to the right and circle slowly. Take eight and a
half seconds to rotate around and continue a few minutes.
Clicks and crunches in the neck are normal as kinks release.
Return to centre, drop your head forward, then tilt back and
to the left and slowly circle the other way. Continue a few
minutes.
When ready, come back to centre, and feel how you feel. This
exercise creates a reassuring sense of the sacredness of the
self which is pleasant and affirming.
Notice any other feelings you feel, and embrace them. It’s
ok to feel… stressed, sad, anxious, angry, bored…
and any of the other things you may be feeling. Notice your
feelings, allow them, be present with them, acknowledge and
surrender. Then gently come back to the room.
Jelila is an internationally renowned intuitive healer, offering
individual energy healing, past life healing, individual sub-conscious
negative belief clearing, workshops for health, wealth, and
happiness.
Jelila is in Bali from 19 December to 2nd January. If you
would like to release your own subconscious negative beliefs,
please call 0361 766259 to book.
Jelila welcomes comments and may be contacted on:
Email: jelila@jelila.com
Website: www.jelila.com or www.imagine-retreats.com
