It is natural for the ego to want to control – to
control relationships, money, events. However to create
flow in your life it’s necessary to do the opposite
– and let go!
This requires a degree of trust. We need to believe
that the ‘bird in the hand’ we are clutching on
to will be replaced at least by another bird, or even, something
better! As long as our hands are clutched around anything,
the universe is not able to give to us – our hands are
full, how can we receive more? In order to receive more,
we need to let go and open to receive it.
Trying to control relationships, or force people to do what
we want, is a sure way to make them run a mile! As a
result, we don’t get what we want, and we may destroy
the relationship. Rather like feeding a wild bird, we
need to offer crumbs and let it fly to us, but not lock it
in a cage or it may stop singing. What fun is a caged
silent bird?
Any over-controlling that is experienced outside of ourselves
is a reflection of too much controlling inside. Our
outer world is merely the ‘out-picturing’ of beliefs
we hold about ourselves. Here are some beliefs to change
around this:
I force myself
I force myself to do things I don’t want
I’m not enough and I can never be enough
There isn’t enough, there’s never enough
I run out, I run out on myself
I’m not what I want
I can’t get what I want, or do what I want
I can’t give to myself, It’s wrong or selfish
to give to myself
I’m never satisfied
I hold on, I can’t let myself go
I hold on to myself and stretch out at the same time
If you have the belief ‘I’m not enough’
you may try to complete yourself by grabbing on to something
– a relationship, a job, etc. This is stifling
and squeezes the life out of things!
‘I’m never satisfied’ makes for a dissatisfied
life, and projected onto partners, makes them miserable too,
as they can never please you!
‘I hold on to myself and stretch out at the same time’
is a funny one, I call it the ‘push-me pull-you’
belief. An ongoing tension of wanting something and
pulling it towards, at the same time as rejecting it and pushing
it away. Not a comfortable feeling! ‘I’m
caught in a trap, I can’t break out, because I love
you too much, baybee!’
‘I run out’ creates running out – of money,
and also attracts partners that ‘run out’!
Changing a Belief
To change a negative belief, you merely need to embrace, acknowledge,
and surrender to it, which turns it off. The process*
is simply to say out loud:
“I choose to believe (I force myself), I love myself
when I believe in(I force myself) and I embrace it, I surrender.”
As you say the belief, feel how you feel when you have the
belief. As you embrace it, imagine you are hugging a
crying three year old, and as you surrender, acknowledge and
let go. You only need to do it once, for each belief.
Drink lots of water, and take rest after.
Creating Cash Flow
Do you like rich people? Is it ok to be rich?
If not, then you will not want to be a rich person and so
will sabotage yourself every time you receive any cash!
To create cash flow, you need positive beliefs about money,
and also, to demonstrate to the universe in practical terms
that ‘I have enough’ by letting go of the cash
you have and spending it on the things you need, and the things
that please you and make you happy.
Let’s begin by clearing some typical negative beliefs
about cash flow:
I’m not enough, there’s never enough
I’m in survival mode
Rich people don’t go to heaven
I’m not in ‘the rich group’; I’m not
a ‘rich person’
It’s hard to make money in Bali
Bali is a poor country
It’s wrong to be rich with these poor people around
There isn’t enough to go round
I feel poor
I’m making just enough to get by
I lose my money
As soon as I make money it goes out again
I can’t surrender
Exercise: Write down all your money beliefs on
a sheet of paper, and mark all the ‘negative’
ones, and clear them. This is a good thing to do regularly.
Some beliefs are held collectively by societies, cultures,
and countries. A belief in lack is common in Bali.
Whereas Singapore has a collective belief in abundance.
Your location and contacts may affect your beliefs, and thus,
your lifestyle!
Exercise – Opening to Flow
Relax, breathe, and find yourself by a large expanse of clear
blue water. Enjoy the breeze, and the feel. A
boat comes and carries you to the source of the supply.
Drink in the supply from the source, and know that it is infinite.
Know that it is yours. See yourself connected with the
source of the supply and know that the supply can flow to
you on an ongoing basis. Open to the supply, the flow.
Receive. Let go of anything you are holding in your
hands, or holding on to. Watch it flow away. Open
to new wonderful things flowing to you, and observe theprocess.
Ask for anything you desire from universal supply and let
go, surrender. Gently return to the room.
Jelila is an internationally renowned intuitive healer, offering
individual energy healing, past life healing, individual sub-conscious
negative belief clearing, workshops.
Jelila is healing in Singapore from 5-17 December +65
97154221. Jelila is in Bali from 19-23 December, please
call 0361 766259 to book.
Jelila welcomes comments and may be contacted on:
Email: jelila@jelila.com
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