If you feel you don’t belong, often feel uncertain
about things, unsure even of whether you really want to be
here at all, then this is for you.
Birth, being our ‘major entrance’, our crowning
moment, is a theatrical and high powered event. Our
first experience of life, it colours our ideas about being
here. Nowadays the importance of the experience is recognised,
with care being given to the first moments of the baby and
the emotional comfort of the mother. However in the
past such care has not always been given and the resulting,
often unrecognised, trauma can be profound. It can take
a lifetime to recover. Let’s see if I can offer
you some short-cuts!
The Baby’s Perspective
The baby’s soul is present before birth. A baby
is fully able to feel. For months, she has awaited the moment
she will enter the world. Like a player waiting to come
on stage, she is excited. If all goes according to plan,
and she is welcomed and honoured, then she is likely to feel
comfortable here. However, if she is ignored (maybe
due to a medical emergency that makes everyone busy) she may
have a very different experience which can profoundly affect
her sense of belonging, comfort and safety here on earth.
(Birth trauma thus relates to the base chakra.)
So the baby arrives, and is not the focus of attention.
In her first few moments, she decides ‘I’m not
important’. ‘I don’t want to be here’
(or, ‘I’m not sure I want to be here’) ‘I
hate myself for bringing myself here’ and ‘I hate
my creations’. “I’m not welcome here.
I don’t like it here. I’m not invited’.
These subconscious beliefs stay within the child and profoundly
affect her experience. She will see these ‘truths’
everything that the world shows her. (More about the
effects in a minute).
Baby Meditation
This meditation comforts your ‘inner baby’.
You might like to do it in bed, hugging a pillow.
Breathe, relax, and feel yourself cocooned in warmth.
Feel yourself gently rocked. Contact your inner baby.
Hold the baby that is you in your arms and give comfort.
Listen to the baby. Give reassurance. When ready,
gently return to the room.
Effects of Birth Trauma Beliefs
If you have a negative subconscious belief then you project
it out, like a splatter gun, over your life! You see
it all around you, in life’s mirror. Here are
some common birth beliefs and their effects.
‘I’m not sure I want to be here’ causes
you to feel uncertain about your relationship, work, life
purpose – well, everything! In actual fact, it’s
just the belief creating the uncertainty, NOT the situations!
So, you may leave a relationship, due to uncertainty, without
realising that the uncertainty is coming from within you!
Embrace and acknowledge that you have this belief and create
greater comfort.
The belief ‘I hate myself and I hate my creations’
is a life-wrecker. You will never feel satisfied with
anything you create! And you will dislike everything!
If you get annoyed about ‘not being invited’ to
things, or have trouble inviting others, then you may deeply
believe ‘I’m not invited’.
Difficulty in giving birthday presents or celebrating birthdays,
is also a sign of birth trauma, as is feeling ‘I hate
birthdays’.
Feelings of ‘stuckness’ and difficulty with breathing
are often from birth trauma (think about the feeling of being
born). Also fears and guilt about ‘hurting women’
arise from guilt and fear that the baby is hurting it’s
mother, during birth. In males, this causes men to create
relationships in which they do ‘hurt women’ (emotionally
or physically) because unfortunately we always attract our
fears. Embrace and acknowledge ‘I hurt women’
or ‘I’m afraid I hurt women’ to heal this
one.
There are a number of other beliefs in birth trauma, all of
which can be healed. It’s also possible to visualise
re-visiting your birth as your adult self, and give comfort
to the baby ‘you’.
Beliefs From Before Birth
In actual fact, we may bring some of the beliefs we experience
at birth with us, from previous lives.
We develop in consciousness through many lifetimes, attracting
the same patterns over and over, until we eventually heal
them. You are an evolving soul, and some of the things
you are experiencing now, you may have been working on for
centuries. Understanding and embracing a subconscious
belief (which effectively, causes you to learn something new)
can help you complete a pattern that you may have been working
on for a very long time!
Transforming a subconscious belief such as ‘I hurt women’
into ‘I don’t hurt women’ is a few words,
but represents a very large learning.
Beliefs create our experience. Choosing more constructive
beliefs creates a more pleasing reality.
Walk-ins
A special kind of ‘birth’ is the walk-in.
This is when a soul comes into a body after birth, effectively
swapping with the original soul occupant, who leaves.
The scene is often an accident at which the original person
dies, leaving space for the new soul to come in (by agreement).
This allows advanced beings to come to the planet bringing
their full awareness.
If you are a walk in (or even, fear you are one) this can
create profound discomfort. Why? Well, you have
‘walked in’ to another body and effectively ‘taken
over’ so there is often a deep fear that this could
happen again, to you! The fear of being taken over.
So you may experience that fear in relationships. Also,
there can be guilt about taking over a body and being connected
with that original person’s family. Again, a lack
of ‘belonging’. The main thing is to embrace
that you feel ‘weird and uncomfortable’ being
here, and that maybe you really don’t belong here!
Just embrace and acknowledge that.. and get on with enjoying
being here and doing what you came here to do!
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Jelila is an internationally renowned intuitive healer, offering
energy, sound, and crystal healing, past life healing, negative
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