Party time! It’s time to have fun envisioning the
things that you would really enjoy. So if you’re a party
pooper, misanthrope, general stick-in-the-mud, or merely just
have not been out for a bit, this is for you!
Before we are able to celebrate with others, we need to be
able to celebrate ourselves. On a deep soul level, we need
to be comfortable with being human, and glad to be here on
the planet. Without that foundation, celebration is nigh-on
impossible, because there is a deep-seated discomfort. To
give an example, one of my clients had great difficulty in
giving birthday gifts, and the reason was she couldn’t
see the point of her own life, so why celebrate someone elses?
We always project outwards what we feel deep inside. Life
is a just mirror.
Celebration Meditation
Relax, breathe, and imagine you are standing in a white corridor.
Feeling safe, a guide takes you by the hand and you walk along
the corridor to the light at the end. The guide drops your
hand and you walk out into the light, into the place of celebration.
Have a look around. Where are you? Who is at your party? What
do you see yourself doing? What can you smell? Taste? Hear?
Move in the celebration to where you feel most attracted.
Participate. Play. How do you feel? Notice. Move to different
areas and experiences. How do you feel? Enjoy and play with
the experience for as long as you want, and when you are ready,
come back to the room.
Now take a pen and paper and journal your experience, especially
noticing the feelings that you were attracted to. List them,
because this is your ‘shopping list’ of what you
desire. (We never want merely an experience, it is the feelings
that it gives us that we truly seek).
For example: Warm embraced understood loved home safe welcome
belonging.
Now, if you are listing something that you want, that means,
on a subconscious level, that you are saying you don’t
have it already. So, to create those feelings that you want
and are not now having, you merely put them into the negative,
and use the belief embracing process, to create them in yourself:
How to change a feeling or belief:
To change a negative feeling or belief, simply embrace, acknowledge,
and surrender to it, which reverses it . The process* is to
say out loud:
“I choose to believe (I don’t feel warm, embraced,
understood, loved, home, safe, welcome, belonging). I love
myself when I believe (I don’t feel warm, embraced,
understood, loved, home, safe, welcome, belonging) and I embrace
it, I surrender.”
As you say the belief, feel how you feel when you have the
belief. As you embrace it, imagine you are hugging a crying
child, and as you surrender, acknowledge and let go. You only
need do it once, for each belief. Drink lots of water, and
rest after.
Notice how your feelings change.
(I hope you enjoy this advanced bit of self-programming, which
can take you straight to the feeling, without the need to
long for the experience, or depend on anyone else to give
it to you!)
‘Having Fun’ Beliefs
You might also like to change these profound beliefs which
can stop you having fun (use the process above and do them
one by one):
1. I won’t join the party**
2. I will join the party
It’s not safe to have fun
I won’t enjoy myself**
I will enjoy myself
I won’t take risks to enjoy myself**
I’m too serious/not serious enough
I won’t let myself go**
I’m not interested in myself, I’m boring, bored
I don’t want to be here
I don’t want to go
I won’t accept my gifts**
I won’t participate**
I won’t join in with life**
I’m too serious/not serious enough
I refuse to play/join in
I don’t want myself
I won’t celebrate myself**
I’m not welcome/not invited
I feel embarrassed/stupid/uncomfortable to be here.
** 2 stage process. For all these, clear the belief first
with’I won’t’, and repeat with ‘I
will’ (this brings it into the present, which is the
sole domain of the subconscious mind.)
Exercise
Allow your mind to free-flow as you write answers to these
questions:
If I really let my hair down I’d...
If had the time of my life, I’d...
If I really knew how to enjoy myself, I’d...
If I really knew how to celebrate myself, I’d...
Have fun celebrating yourself!
Next issue I’m responding to a reader query about non-exclusive
relationships.
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