If you’re not sure about which way to go, or what your
life path is, this is for you.
Look at any advertisement, and you will see that they all
appeal to a feeling. They are selling not just products,
but the feelings that those products will create. Why?
Because feelings are what motivate us. We move torwards
and desire certain feelings, such as love, freedom, power,
hope, and move away from others such as pain, anxiety, and
fear.
The executive who gets a bright red sportscar doesn’t
just want the car – he (or she) wants to feel powerful,
noticed, special, successful. The woman who has a new
hairdo wants to feel beautiful, attractive and loved. And
so on.
The active part of you that does things, makes things happen,
is the Masculine, which we all have within us. We use
our Masculine side to design what we are going to do with
our lives. Plans, projects, careers. However,
it is the Feminine side of us (which again, we all have) that
feels. And the feeling side is where we will discover
our true desires. Without reference to feelings, the
Masculine tends to go off on a tangent, create all sorts of
things, then get to the top of the mountain and go ‘oops!
I don’t want to be here!’ So that’s
why it is really important to get in touch with your feminine
side and your feelings, in order to design your plans, so
that they have true meaning for you.
Meeting The Feminine Meditation
Relax, breathe, and imagine yourself in a delightful green
wood. Walk gently among the scented flowers, until you
reach a shady place, by water, where your Feminine is looking
at herself in the glassy water. How is she feeling?
Ask, and listen. Spend as long as you want listening
to your Feminine, and when ready, gently return.
How was your inner Feminine? If you haven’t been
listening lately, you may find her weeping. Sometimes
we whizz about doing things, and don’t realise how it
makes us feel. We all need nurturing, peace, rest, love.
When the Masculine drags us from pillar to post, making us
so active and busy, something just wilts inside! It
is this that we need to listen to and respond to. The
aim is to achieve balance between doing and being.
Living Your Life Purpose
Most people think of ‘life purpose’ as a task
oriented thing – like ‘be a successful parent’
or ‘run a successful business’. However,
true life purpose is much simpler and more elemental –
for example, ‘express more love’ or ‘learn
to forgive’ – things which are about feelings.
These are the soul level urges that we have come here to discover.
And yes, you can express these through projects, however if
you get clear on the essence of what you wish to create first,
identify the feeling you require, and ask the Universe for
that, it is easier for it to be given to you as you are not
limiting the ways of creation.
Another common misconception about ‘life purpose’
is that it will be given to you like a tablet of stone ‘you
are here to build a building’ or whatever. In
actual fact it unfolds step by step, as you develop. If you
allow your feelings to guide you, moment by moment, and find
the courage to truly go towards whatever ‘feels most
good’ at any given time, you will be guided to your
true destiny. The Universe works on feeling and you
literally ‘feel your way’ towards your destiny.
Follow Your Feet
Often the body knows something that the brain yet doesn’t!
Once I was driving in fog, at night, and my foot suddenly
came off the accelerator. I then realised I was right
behind a truck and about to collide with it! My body-sense,
or sixth-sense, saved me, fortunately, without me even thinking
about it.
Here’s a fun and powerful exercise that activates
body-sense and feelings. Put on some music, and begin
to move your feet. Just let them go where they will.
Notice your feelings. Moving upwards, allow each part
of your body a turn at leading the movement and see where
it goes. Finally your whole body is moving. When
ready, sit quietly and write down your thoughts and feelings.
If you have a problem, move and dance about the problem.
You will be amazed at what discover!
Listen For Your Feelings
Often when I draw a diagram for my clients of their inner
masculine it is a little stick man with ‘X’s through
the ears! For not listening! The most important
way of honouring the feminine within you is to listen.
Get quiet, meditate, walk in nature, and just feel.
Allow some time to get in touch with what you are truly feeling,
and what you would like to feel. Talk to your feeling
side.
Other Ways of Honouring The Feminine
Anything to do with beauty, just being, and sensuality connects
with the feminine. Scented bubble baths, candles, walks
in nature, reading a magazine, fluffy cappucinos, are all
the province of the feminine. Allow yourself to do more
of these sorts of things – and honour the feminine within
you. You will be rewarded with her wisdom, knowing,
intuition, appreciation, and with deeper meaning in everything
you do!
NEXT ISSUE: Appreciating The Masculine In
You
Jelila is an internationally renowned intuitive healer, who
helps her clients clear problems and live a happier freer
more empowered life. Please see website for healing
menu, packages, and schedule.
Jelila is usually in Bali for the last week each month –
next from July 28th – August 10th
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