Jealousy, the green-eyed demon strikes when attractive people
are flitting around your partner. You feel anxious,
uncomfortable and uncertain of whether you will continue to
be chosen over the delights of ‘those other ones’!
Interestingly, the root of jealousy is the inability to see
yourself as special, different, and distinct from others.
There is a feeling of ‘why should I be chosen above
these others, when I am just the same as them’.
A kind of blindness towards the wonders of your own self.
Imagine five gingerbread figures, one with your name on it.
A jealous person will see them all as same, same, same.
The key to releasing jealousy is to realise that you are not
the same as everyone else. You have unique and special
qualities that make you ‘stand out from the crowd’
and it is for these that you are chosen!
If you are jealous in other ways, for example, of what other
people have or create, this is just telling you what you need
to create for yourself. Take some time to look at what
it is that they have that you don’t. Make a list
of the qualities they have, and the things about them that
annoy or frustrate you. These are the very things that
you secretly desire! Ask yourself ‘what feelings would
I have, if I had what they have? How can I begin to
create this in my life?’ As you embrace your differences
with others, you begin to create what you truly desire for
yourself.
Low self-esteem is another cause of jealousy – the feeling
that we are ‘not good enough’ and lacking in some
way. Remember you are good enough, and enjoy doing the
things that make you feel good – a hair cut, new clothes,
caring for and loving yourself are all great for self-esteem.
Jealousy Meditation – Becoming Special
Breathe deeply, relax, and imagine yourself in a comfortable
place, watching a cookery programme on TV. They are
making gingerbread men biscuits, and you watch as the pastry
is rolled and the figures cut out. You choose one biscuit
for yourself, and begin to decorate it with icing and sweets.
You write your name on it and decorate it to express what
is special and unique about you – your loving heart,
your clear mind, your hobbies, etc. Have fun decorating
your biscuit in any way you like. When ready, take time
to admire it and compare it with the others and notice its
good points and how different from the others it is.
A crowd of people come and admire it and acknowledge and point
out its special and different qualities. When you are
ready, pick up the biscuit and eat all of it yourself, knowing
it is yours and only yours. When ready, gently come
back to the room.
In future, if you feel yourself becoming jealous, visualise
your gingerbread man floating above your head. As the
words ‘I’m special’ appear glittering above
it, all negativity is dispelled instantly.
How to Handle A Partner Who ‘Makes You Jealous’
In actual fact, only you can make you jealous! However,
if you let your partner know you are jealous, you may open
yourself to some teasing games, as they enjoy the ego-boost!
Here’s a healing visualisation to free you from feeling
‘wound up’ by your partner. It also works
on anything else that ‘winds you up’.
Releasing ‘Wind-Ups’ Healing
Relax, breathe, and imagine yourself in a shopping mall, participating
in a product demo. The curtains open and you are shown
a coiled spring. It is very tightly wound and you wonder
what to do to take the pressure off. You feel it with
your hands and try to open it. Someone hands you a key,
and you find a place to put the key, and turn it, to relieve
the pressure. See and understand how the tension is
released. If you feel the spring is too heavy or want
to change it in any way, imagine it changing into the form
and material you prefer. Watch it gently springing open
and closed, to the extent you desire, and take time using
the key to get the coil at a nice springy flexible but relaxed
tension. When you like how it feels, breathe, and use
the key to lock it at that setting and level, knowing it will
stay that way in future, and that only you have the key.
Give the coil a little oil and any other attention it needs,
and when ready, gently come back to the room.
Relax and enjoy being special.
NEXT ISSUE: Releasing Karmic Connections
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