August 1, 2018

Question: I think I may have flirted a bit too much with a young Balinese boy. He’s eighteen; I’m twenty-six; I have a boyfriend, and he knows it. I’m very happy with my boyfriend, and he knows that too. Still, he is cute and awkward and rather nice, and when I look at him, I […]

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July 4, 2018

Question: In my daily life, there is a small handful of people whom I have come to hate. Perhaps the word “hate” is too strong, but I obsess on them even though we are not friends and we have nothing to do with each other directly. There’s the client, for example, who didn’t take my […]

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June 6, 2018

Question: I moved to Bali from Thailand a few years ago, so all my conversations with my ex have been pretty much online at this point. I generally don’t answer my phone when she calls because if I did, she’d call all the time. So after a few years of this, she’s stopped calling except […]

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May 9, 2018

Question: I have less of a current problem and more of a preventative question. I was recently accepted into the university of my choice, but it is halfway around the world from all my friends and family, and I have never been very good at keeping in touch with people. Instant messenger and Facebook help, […]

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April 11, 2018

Question: I have a problem when it comes to being attracted to people. The best way I can explain it is I basically have no “friend zone.” If I have a lot in common with someone, I find myself wanting to be intimate with them. I try to be discerning about the people I actually […]

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March 14, 2018

Question: Next weekend, a woman I consider to be a friend is having a party, and I have not been invited. I can’t help feeling rejected even though I’ve made peace with the fact that, as much as we may like each other platonically, she doesn’t have any romantic interest in me. There are two […]

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February 14, 2018

Question: You’re probably going to read this and think that it’s a terrible idea because having an affair is bad. But this married woman and I have been friends for a couple of years, and she recently told me that she and her husband have an open relationship, and that she would be open to […]

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January 17, 2018

Question: I have a hard time understanding foreign accents, and I don’t know how to address the issue without making it super awkward. My landlady is Indonesian, and I sometimes I have a hard time understanding her English due to her heavy accent. Asking over and over for clarification clearly frustrates her and makes me […]

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December 20, 2017

Question: Last year, I made a conscious decision to stop consuming porn. I stumbled across the argument that you can never be certain if the people being filmed are being coerced. This coupled with the realization that I am a nice guy was enough to make me feel too uncomfortable to continue consuming it. Recently […]

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November 22, 2017

Question: My partner and I have been together 10+ years. We get along, have fun, and love each other immensely, but we no longer have sex. Part of the reason is that we each have experienced some medical issues over the past few years, but we also just don’t seem to have much sexual desire. […]

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