November 22, 2017

Question: My partner and I have been together 10+ years. We get along, have fun, and love each other immensely, but we no longer have sex. Part of the reason is that we each have experienced some medical issues over the past few years, but we also just don’t seem to have much sexual desire. […]

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October 25, 2017

Question: My boyfriend is a masochist though I’m not a sadist. I very much enjoy pleasuring him, but I don’t actively get joy from causing pain. The only thing that bothers me about the whole situation is his use of the word “abuse” inreference to the consensual things that we do. I grew up in an extremely […]

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September 27, 2017

Question: About a year ago, my partner became mildly friendly with an exchange student when he was at university. Although they weren’t great friends, this person phoned last week to let him know that she is coming to Bali and asked if she could stay with us for a couple of weeks. While I wasn’t happy […]

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August 30, 2017

Question: I’ve been seeing this great guy for about 6 months. He’s sweet, smart, and ridiculously generous with his time and attention, and I like him a lot. All this makes me feel terrible about telling him to shut up about the angst he feels about his friend who’s moving back to her home country soon. […]

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August 2, 2017

Question: An old friend back home has found me online though I haven’t seen him in many years. His wife just died of cancer, and it doesn’t surprise me that such a horrific experience might lead him to look for old friends. But he strikes me as being desperately lonely, and he instant-messages me continually with […]

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July 5, 2017

Question: My boyfriend and I have known each other for about 8 months. When we first met and decided to travel together, he was exactly what I was looking for. But, as time has gone on, and as we have been in a variety of different situations together, I have come to see him as clingy, […]

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June 7, 2017

Question: A number of years ago, my partner told an older woman in our village that he was not interested in her romantically. Ever since then, the woman has been spreading false, nasty rumors about him to everyone she knows. Because my boyfriend refuses to speak to her, she would have no way of knowing the […]

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May 10, 2017

Question: In about 6 months, I am planning on moving to Bali. My boyfriend wants to come along, but it looks as if it may be almost impossible for him to find work here. My family lives here, and I plan to live with them. My boyfriend is not cool with that; he’s pretty much said […]

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April 12, 2017

Question: There is this woman who is part of my social group of friends, and with whom I go clubbing. Because my villa is convenient to many of our favorite bars, everyone in the group makes a habit of often sleeping over at my place. This woman, however, gets way drunker than most and takes off […]

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March 15, 2017

Question: My sister has been stuck in a dead end loop for years. The two of us are in our 30’s, and we each recently moved back in with our family for financial reasons. This will probably be for a number of months, and as a result, we’re stuck together and driving each other crazy. The […]

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